Set up your life to create more self-confidence

Self-confidence doesn’t just appear out of nowhere.

Self-confidence is a result of how you live your life, externally and internally.

So, if you feel held back by confidence issues or imposter syndrome or just know that you’re capable of more, then this can be the perfect time to examine your foundation for your daily life and do some upgrades.

The vital role of structure in creating self-confidence

Structure is something that provides support.

Like how the bones of the body hold you up, create space for all your amazing organs (like your brain!) and enable you to take action in the world.

Without the structure of your bones, you’d just be a pile of organic matter oozing about the ground, not doing much in the way of anything and, thus, having a rather limited experience of life.

Structure is vital to creating successful results, in any area, including confidence.

And it’s something that you can continuously improve so that you’re always evolving and moving into greater empowerment.


I like to help my clients improve their life structures from two different approaches:


1. Mindset

Mindset is a fancy word for the thoughts that you think and the beliefs that you have.

Your thoughts give structure to your awareness. They organize the things and events that happen each day into an “understanding” that becomes your (version of) reality.

Something becomes bad or good because of what you think about it.

For example, take a sports game. If your team wins, you’ll probably think that it was a good game. If they lose, then it was a bad game.

In actuality, the game was just a game. Neither good nor bad. But because you have a belief about your favorite team, you create an experience of good or bad.

This happens all day long with confidence.

If your beliefs are structured along the line of “I got this”, “I can figure this out”, “I’m ready to share my voice”, then it becomes SO much easier to take action with confidence.

Structuring a mindset that generates success is the foundation for healthy self-confidence. This can require a lot of deep introspection. It’s important to identify and reframe beliefs that contribute to low self-confidence and consciously choose new beliefs that you can lean on to help you access your natural born empowerment.

2. Routines

Your routines create the structure for your day. They have a huge impact on the state of your body and mind.

Self-sabotaging routines will gradually wear away at you, using the body’s vital resources to adapt to stressors.

On the other hand, nourishing routines will keep the body and mind resilient to stress and even improving over time. The more resilient you are, the more strength you have to call on when you’re taking risks and going outside your comfort zone.

You can build routines that make you stronger around any and all of the day-to-day things that you do, including:

  • Sleep schedule
  • Food & eating (what you eat, how you eat, when you eat)
  • Self care
  • Movement
  • Work hours and intensity
  • Spiritual connection


Take action

How does the concept of structure play out in your life? Take a few minutes to reflect on the following questions:

  • How do the thoughts and beliefs you have create your experience of the world?
  • And of your own self-confidence?
  • What daily routines (or lack thereof) contribute to a lack of strength and resilience?
  • What routines do you have that nourish you and create resilience?

If you’re ready to create more structure in your life, coaching can help you make amazing progress. I offer a free coaching session to help you get clear on what’s not working and help you take the next steps towards creating the empowered life that you want. Schedule your free call here.